Our years of being gypsy liveaboards started with Nomad teaching us the basics on Lake Carlyle. Nearly a decade passed while we stepped up to the bigger and far more capable Kintala while still on the lake. We then moved aboard to meet the challenges of wandering to our hearts' content along the East Coast, the Bahama Islands, the Florida Keys, and the west coast of Florida, a lifestyle we enjoyed for the better part of a decade. But Kintala went up for sale while I went back to the aviation world to try and fill a depleted bank account. It wasn’t long before the idea of trying the trawler life and doing the Great Loop became a new challenge that we made happen. It turned out to be more of a challenge than we expected, complicated by a heart that quit working for me and a shattered wrist for Deb. With the help of many really good people that became close friends and enriched our lives, and a bit more than two years worth of effort, First Light finally settled into her slip near St. Louis and home. That was more than a year ago now. We thought that we would be happy river runners, taking grandkids out for day and overnight trips. We did make a few trips with family and everyone had a good time. But the cost plus work effort to fun ratio was pretty trying. After a lot of serious soul searching, Deb and I have decided that our long-term wandering days have come to a close. It was not an easy decision, but it is the right one.
I have enjoyed a life far better than the one I probably deserved. Deb and I have ridden more than a quarter of a million miles on a collection of motorcycles. We have owned airplanes, both of us being pilots. We have thousands of nautical miles under our various keels, have lived in four states, raised three daughters, and have eleven grandkids. Our oldest granddaughter just got engaged. Our oldest grandson is with us for a while as he works toward his pilot’s license with the intent of having an aviation career of his own. I will admit that one of my biggest disappointments is that, having lost my medical, I cannot act as his instructor, though we are working our way through the ground schooling required. And I have a promise that I will be his first official passenger. It is a bit wistful on the one hand, being back around the perimeter of the world of aviation where I made a living for better than 50 years. But it is kind of fun as well.
Some might find the idea of a life winding down a burden. I do miss the sky, big water, and bending a motorcycle into a fast corner right on the edge of traction. But I do not miss the effort, the endless work, and the many times I skated way too close to the edge that comes with that kind of lifestyle. Deb has often joked that there are a lot of cats running around short on lives—lives that I “borrowed” as my nine were used up long ago. As for the rest? I certainly would not have guessed that we would end up keeping a decades-long running commentary on our life on the water that we shared with whoever was interested. Or that we would end up writing and publishing six books between us. We could not have imagined all we would see, the adventures that we would have, or anticipated the number of people we would meet who became good friends that we have enjoyed and cherish to this day.
We may still to a bit of exploring. Once First Light finds a new home we will explore getting a van-like vehicle in which to do some traveling. Visit friends and family and see some places I have only seen from the cockpit of an airplane far up in the flight levels. They will not be long trips. “Home” takes on a special charm as life settles down to its last few chapters. And we are home.
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3 comments:
Found your blog when you were on Kintala. Tried to intercept you as you were on the circle trip passing Traverse City Michigan but you were racing south. Wishing you all the best in your next adventures!!!
Hey Tim,
First off, congratulations on beginning a new chapter of your life. Each chapter we add just makes for a much more interesting and fullfilling tale.
I've been following your blog since almost the start, having discovered it shortly after buying our first boat in 2009. Your journey towards a nomadic life was both an inspiration and research material for me as we also made our own small side trip into nomadia. :-)
We actually met once, when we were over-nighting in Oriental back in November 2013; (https://7kts.blogspot.com/2013/11/oriental-nc-2013-11-20.html). Having been following your blog for many years it was a bit of a highlight for me, although I'm sure it was 'just another Internet stalker' for you. :-)
As for us, we sold our boat a few years ago, and have settled comfortably into retirement. We picked up a place in the country with a full one acre lot, and have a 29 foot motorhome that we venture out with on occasion. We're pretty comfortable here, but I have to admit to experiencing a slight twinge of wanderlust from time to time. :-)
Best of wishes for whatever your future may bring you. Fair winds and following seas.
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Rick
TJ / Deb - You don't know me, we have never met. However, our lives do have a common thread (one-sided).
History: 15 years ago, my wife and I went (real) sailing for the 1st time aboard a friend's boat in the Carib. It was a short one week sail trip - but, it changed our life path forever. We quickly became fascinated with the whole sailing lifestyle. Over the next decade, we finished up our long tenured careers and methodically evolved a "Retirement Project" that we envisioned sailing around the world! 3 years ago, that dream became a reality. We departed La Rochelle, France in Jan 2023 and pointed our bows West. Since then we have logged over 17,000nm, visited 29 countries and have logged over 300 different anchorages. We have crossed the Atlantic, made two runs thru the Caribbean, transited the Panama Canal, crossed the Equator to the Galapagos and made the long passage in the South Pacific to the French Polynesia. Our adventure boat is currenting resting in Tahiti awaiting our return to embrace 2 more stages this year that should get us to Australia.
So, what does any of this have to do with you guys? After the 2010 sailing trip, I became obsessed with studying the sailing world, went to sail school in 2011, charted many boats in the Carib for yearly vacations. As the years progressed I dug deeper and deeper into any information I could find. Years before the most popular Youtube sailing channels emerged, I browsed thru sailing blogs. Somewhere in that process, I came across your blog! Your writing style, blog frequency and depth of detail matched my thirst for knowledge on someone chasing the sailing dream. You became a regular read for me. A few others come to mind - Zero-to-cruising, Bumfuzzle and others.... I can confess in those days I went back in your blog (an others) and read most every post since the beginning. I needed to hear the full story. As the years progressed, Youtube Sailing Channels became my addiction and my frequency of visiting my blog reading list faded. However, there were occasions, I would sneak over to the blog world and "catch up" on what these mythical people were doing. Today, Jan 5, 2026, was one of those days. Your most recent post was kind of like a Finale and I gave you a private salute. Figured it was time to step out from behind the bushes and send you a formal farewell and Godspeed wish.
Thank you for your dedicated efforts on documenting your lives for others to engulf. I felt like I knew you somewhat - all your sailing aspirations, the endless boat projects, your transparent life challenges and just your overall outlook on life. May you continue chasing your dreams and most importantly "catching" them! This life ride is a short one ...
FYI - the name of our boat is Queen's Dream. While we still fully document our adventure metrics on our public website, I quickly realized the effort to keep a full blog up to date was very time consuming. More kudo's to you guys that did it regularly. Thus, I transitioned over to daily facebook posts that only took 5-10 minutes a day to document. Blogs have faded away, but I want you to know that your content helped shape my thought process for years. Thank you for your years of blog dedication.
Take care - if by some chance our paths were to ever cross, first round of drinks are on me!
Tim Kopischke
SV Queen's Dream
svqueensdream.com
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