...or how to entertain three kids under
8 on a 42 foot sailboat in the middle of 9 days of rain in Florida.
My granddaughter has mastered accessorized playdough play time |
A lot of people have stared at us with
disbelief when we've said that our eldest daughter and husband and
three kids would be joining us for the summer while we're parked on
the dock to work. Forty-two feet of narrow-beam boat works out to be
a little less than 400 square feet, a smallish apartment by anyone's
standards. Most of the naysayers have been people who have either had
bad experiences in close proximity on a boat, or who simply don't
like their relatives well enough to think about spending three months
with them in 400 square feet. Always, the question is, “How do you
do it?” So I thought I'd talk a little bit about that.
First of all, my daughter and family
are boaters. They have lived on a small sailboat for an extended time
and they understand the constraints of space, power, and water. They
have very few possesions, even now that they are (temporarily) living
back on land. They live a simple, uncluttered life. That being said,
it still takes a lot of space to house seven people's things, so one
of the first things we did was to buy a large deck box from Lowe's
and transferred into it all the things that were in the aft cabin. We
set the aft berth up as a space for the boys, aged 5 and 8, with
enough space for their boxes of Legos and bookbags with books and
cars. It's their space to retreat to which helps reduce the mayhem to
a reasonable level. The aft cabin still houses the pantry and the
workshop, so a path to each is cleared for my access at all times. No
work is being done on the boat while they're here so access to the
workbench has been limited by boxes of food that won't fit in the
pantry. Food storage is the biggest problem we've encountered. We
also use the back of their van to cycle things through. They keep a
couple days' worth of clothes on the boat but the rest goes in the
van.
Next to deal with was the sleeping
arrangements. Since Tim needed to leave for work 5 days a week before
8:00 in the morning, we gave the V-berth to our daughter, her husband
and the 2-year-old. It's a large V-berth and completely adequate for
the three of them. What we didn't know at the time was that our
son-in-law, Brian, was going to be working at the marina as well, and
would be getting up just as early. Tim and I took the salon settees,
where he could sleep directly under the air conditioner vent,
something he likes after working in the heat all day. Not ideal for
us, but doable for a short stint and manageable since the reward is
having giggles and kisses on the boat all day.
Food is the biggest difficulty for us
because all three kids have severe food allergies. I'm dealing with
some of them on my cooking blog, Cruising Comforts, so if you happen
to have issues with wheat, dairy, preservatives, colors, or GMO
foods, you can check it out. The result is that I'm cooking separate
food for Tim and I and going to the store every two days to buy food
since we can't store that much food on the boat. Finding special
foods in Palmetto, FL is challenging at the very least, and if it
wasn't for the arrival of Aldi late last year we would be sunk. Our
tiny little galley is doing yoeman's duty these days.
Most of the time, 400 square feet isn't
an issue because they spend a good bit of time in the cockpit and
running around outside. They climb trees, look through the shells
lining the dock, collect fresh mangoes from the tree on site, play
pirates, and ride bikes. This past week, though, it has rained every
day and some days the entire day. Finding things for them to do
inside is difficult. They are great with Legos, often building and
playing with them for hours at a time. If you know you have a rainy
week coming up, my opinion is that it's worth a new $12 Lego set from
Amazon or Wal-mart to spark a renewed interest. We also spend a
tremendous amount of time playing Uno, 500, Scrabble, Go Fish,
Dominoes, and solitaire. A deck of cards goes a long way to pass
hours in a small space. I bought a set of card holders for the little
ones so they can hold them easier, and even the 2-year-old has an old
deck of cards that she plays with alongside of us, lining them up in
the holder and clapping while shouting, “I winned! I winned!” The
rain this past week was so prolonged that it demanded that I pull out
all the stops and dig out my playdough recipe. The toddler had just
received a set of kitchen tools from the dollar store for her
birthday, and they turned out to be just the ticket for playing with
the playdough. Playdough is cheap, quick to make, and lasts forever.
Always a very, very last resort for us,
there are videos. My daughter's family, like us, doesn't own a TV.
Videos are a rare treat for super rainy days, and this week I lucked
out at a local thrift shop with a set of Fred Levine's Little
Hardhats series, just in time. The boys watched Road Construction
Ahead and Fire and Rescue for a while one afternoon and immediately
set out afterward to build some construction and fire truck Legos.
Score.
Normally I would use an afternoon to
bake some chocolate chip cookies together but since they can't have
them we opted for some dairy-free chocolate pudding. They love
helping in the galley and when they can't help with a particular
thing they love hanging out on the companionway steps talking to me
while I cook.
When it's not raining, we try to involve them in boat projects. We're getting ready to sand the teak to refinish it, and the caulking had to be removed. Tim got the boys working on it and they had it done in just a couple hours. There are almost always things they can do on the boat, even the littlest ones. My oldest grandson is in charge of changing water tanks on the manifold when we empty one, and logging it in the log book.
After over a month here, we've come to
some conclusions:
We couldn't do this on this size boat
unless we were parked on a dock. Our food storage is too limited and
our holding tank too small.
Teaching manners and kindness is the
most important lesson you can grace your children with. The smaller
the space you live in, the more it's a necessity. Besides, what's
cuter than a 2-year-old saying thank you when you give them another
cup of cinnamon applesauce?
While Tim and I can get by using 5
gallons of water a day, it takes 20 per day for the seven of us.
Aldi is a godsend when it comes to
organic food.
Good, open communication is paramount
when living in a small space together. Be clear about what the rules
and your expectations are. This is your home and guests are guests.
Sharing what's good about this
lifestyle with family you love is a privilege that very few get to
have. Sunsets and the memories of them are so fleeting that it's just
wonderful to have the opportunity to grab someone and say, “Come
look!” before it fades. Yes, there are challenging moments, a lack
of privacy, endless amounts of work, but the rewards are not
measurable.
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